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The Overwhelmed Mom: Juggling Motherhood, Passion, and Self-Care Without Guilt

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There are days when I feel like I’m drowning. Between the never-ending demands of motherhood, the pressure to be productive, and the constant interruptions, I wonder if I’ll ever truly have time for myself. I love my kids more than anything, but that doesn’t mean this balancing act isn’t exhausting. 

Like many moms, I wear a lot of hats. I’m a full-time stay-at-home mom, a former hairstylist who still takes on family clients, and an aspiring blogger trying to turn my passion into something meaningful. But with only one babysitter and a husband who works six days a week, I constantly face the same tough choice: Do I take a little bit of free time to do hair for my family or run errands? Or do I focus on my blog, something that brings me joy and fulfillment? No matter what I choose, the mom guilt creeps in. I gave up my career to be a full-time mom and though I do not regret that I feel as if my job is to be present with them constantly. But I have to remind myself that if I cannot breathe and recharge, I can’t give them my best self. There is a reason on planes that they tell you to grab your mask first, you can’t save anyone else if you are drowning. I deserve to have an outlet too, and my outlet is to blog. And hopefully relate with other moms. 

I tell other moms all the time not to beat themselves up for taking time away from their kids, but when it comes to myself. It’s so much harder to follow my own advice. Since I stay home, I feel this overwhelming responsibility to be with my kids 24/7. And when I take even a little bit of time for myself – whether to work, rest, or just breathe—I beat myself up. I know it’s not realistic to be everything for my kids all the time, but the guilt still hits me like a ton of bricks.

And I know I’m not the only one.

The Juggling Act of Motherhood & Creativity

Every time I sit down to write, I get interrupted. Someone needs attention. Someone is crying. Someone needs me to wipe their booty. Someone needs a hug. Someone is climbing onto something they shouldn’t be. By the time I get back to my laptop, I’ve lost my train of thought. And feel the guilt of even sitting at my computer. 

It’s not just the lack of focus that makes this so hard; it’s the mental load. The constant planning, problem solving, and worrying that comes with being a mom. Then, on top of that, there’s the pressure to create something meaningful, to turn my passions into something productive. It feels like an endless juggling act, and some days, I drop all the balls.

Not only is it a juggling act of creativity and mom guilt, but it’s also a constant battle to keep everything else running smoothly. Making sure the kids nap at the right time, eating balanced meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and still managing to keep the house clean, the laundry done, and everything in order—it’s exhausting. By the time the day is over, it feels like I’ve run a marathon, yet there’s always something else that needs to be done. And then there’s social media, making it seem like every other mom has a spotless house, perfectly dressed kids, and endless patience. But that’s not real life. Behind those curated posts are the same messes, meltdowns, and overwhelming moments we all deal with. The pressure to have it all together all the time is unrealistic, and honestly, I’m tired of pretending like it’s possible. Some days, just keeping everyone alive and semi-happy is enough—and that should be okay.

Here’s what I’m learning: Even small wins are still victories. Even if I only get 15 minutes to work on my blog, that’s 15 minutes of progress. It’s okay that the house isn’t spotless, and the clothes are backed up. They will be patient until I get to them. My kids are fed, they are happy, and honestly, they have an amazing life! That’s all that matters!

 – and remember

 I’m allowed to take that time for myself without feeling guilty. — And so are you!

Finding Balance Without Burning Out

I know I’m not alone in this struggle, so I want to share a few things that are helping me manage my time, set boundaries, and stay productive—without completely draining myself.

1. Embrace the Small Wins

I used to think I needed hours of uninterrupted time to be productive; and sometimes still do. But as a mom, that’s just not realistic. Instead of waiting for the “perfect” time to work, I take what I can get. Even 15 minutes of focused effort is better than nothing. Small steps add up.

2. Set a Realistic Routine

I don’t follow a strict schedule, but having a loose routine helps me prioritize my time. Nap times are my go-to, early mornings, or late nights—whatever works for you, find a window and claim it. If you have childcare help, plan your most important work during that time. And don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

3. Set Boundaries & Let Go of Guilt

One of the hardest things for me is setting boundaries—not just with my time, but with my own expectations. I’ve had to remind myself that I’m allowed to take time for my passions. My kids will be okay. In fact, seeing me pursue something I love is a great example for them.

But the guilt doesn’t just go away overnight. It’s something I have to work through every time I step away. I try to remind myself that I don’t expect my husband to feel guilty when he goes to work. I wouldn’t want my kids to feel guilty for having their own interests when they grow up. So why do I hold myself to such an impossible standard?

4. Prioritize Self-Care (Even in Small Ways).

I used to think self-care meant spa days or long, luxurious breaks. Now I realize it can be as simple as drinking my coffee while it’s still hot, taking a shower alone, or listening to a podcast while I clean. Taking care of myself doesn’t take away from my kids—it makes me a better mom.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re not failing.

You’re human. Motherhood is hard, but you don’t have to lose yourself in the process. Give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins. Take time for yourself without guilt. And remember—you’re doing an amazing job.